I’ve seen my work change a lot over the years, but one thing has stayed the same. I’ve always longed to show joy and genuine connection between family members in my images. No fake smiles here. Not one. I want to give you something real and connected. I want to show you the parts where you’re having fun together and for a moment or two, completely forget I am there. The parts where you’ve let your guard down and you’re 100% focused on each other. The parts where your hair is a little messed up and you’re smiling bigger than you normally would (because otherwise your eyes look too squinty and maybe show too many laugh lines). The parts where you’re moving and flowing and breathing in each other. And it’s taken me a long long while to figure out why.
I knew part of it may have been about de-mystifying “the perfect happy family” because I know everyone is not always happy, and I know that no family, and no person, is perfect. But there was more of
But why is it so hard to show sometimes? Why is it so hard to open up in front of a camera? Why do I have such a desire to show this?
After reading Brené Brown’s
In her book, she talks about vulnerability and shame and connection. It’s
She goes on further to talk about laughter, dancing, and singing, and how all of these activities encourage vulnerability but foster the connection that we all seek on many different levels. Laughter, in order to truly take place, involves losing control a
How powerful is that?
Brené goes on to say that a good belly laugh is unquestionably good for the
All of those shame triggers she talks about is actually EXACTLY how I would describe myself. I am goofy, silly, uncool, and spastic at times. Just ask my husband, kids
Laughing and being vulnerable is so FREEING. It is so FUN. It is so BEAUTIFUL. I promise you. I’d love to show you.
If you’d like to learn more about using vulnerability to build better honest and open relationships, read on. I found this amazing website called Conscioused: A University for Life Skills that explains in a step-by-step process, how to use vulnerability and honesty to foster closer relationships with your kids, with your spouse, parents, and friends. Let me know what you think!